Friday, June 25, 2010

opening up

in an effort to not become a nagging wife... i've begun to write out my feelings in somewhat of a journal...

i've been very quick to get frustrated, angry, jealous, etc... and can throw myself a pity party in a hot minute... yes... like a "shame on you" shin-dig... (no, not shame on me)

i'm working hard on my heart and my attitude and am ashamed of the things that can come out of my brain-mouth... some of them come out of my real mouth. i am trying to be a better steward of my time and be a better wife.

eden is the greatest blessing to lee and i and she has brought us so much closer than i even thought possible... but in that growth, there must be pruning and as we grow closer and learn more about the other, our flaws are also exposed. and in our new roles as "mama" and "daddy" we are learning that God made us so differently to play those roles differently.

i am a strong believer that communication is key... its a key that can open many doors...

BUT it can also shut and LOCK many doors...

i've got a long way to go, but i would encourage you (wives AND husbands) to write down your thoughts in a private place... it does feel good to get it off of your mind... you'll sleep better.

i've learned that this "journaling" process is a way to express your thoughts, get them out of your mind, organize them and POSSIBLY* at a more appropriate time organize them and address the issues like ahem... adults.

*yeah, sometimes you read them outside of the heat of the moment and you realize how ridiculous you sound... and how silly your frustrations are... and you can even see the other side a little more clearly.

just thought i would share with you folks out there... you never know who is experiencing problems just. like. yours... and hey, we're all in this together! :)


Jennifer said...
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Megan said...

very very true! i keep thinking how our baby will change our marriage and bring out different parts of each other.

Barbara said...

Yes, journalizing is terrific!!! You can write down your worst feelings, rip up the paper and it makes those bad feelings to away. Been doing it for years!!

Grandma's House (Barb)